fix(bin): replace lsof port preflight with ss/netstat #1600

Job	Run time
build-server-macos-rocksdb (macos-15-intel)	19m 36s
build-server-macos-rocksdb (macos-15, -Xms512m -Xmx2g)	17m 7s
build-server (hbase, 11)	20m 18s
build-server (rocksdb, 11)	12m 31s
build-server (memory, 11)	21m 10s
build-server-riscv64 / build-server-riscv64	47m 9s
build-server-macos-rocksdb (macos-15-intel)	20m 9s
build-server (hbase, 11)	21m 50s
build-server (rocksdb, 11)	15m 34s
build-server (memory, 11)	19m 36s
build-server-macos-rocksdb (macos-15, -Xms512m -Xmx2g)	16m 26s
build-server-riscv64 / build-server-riscv64	47m 9s
build-server-macos-rocksdb (macos-15-intel)	19m 59s
build-server (hbase, 11)	22m 46s
build-server (memory, 11)	19m 27s
build-server (rocksdb, 11)	15m 44s
build-server-macos-rocksdb (macos-15, -Xms512m -Xmx2g)	17m 16s
build-server-riscv64 / build-server-riscv64	47m 9s
	7h 0m 56s

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