diff --git a/src/Relationships/ManyHasMany.php b/src/Relationships/ManyHasMany.php
index d775f5d4..45d542e7 100644
--- a/src/Relationships/ManyHasMany.php
+++ b/src/Relationships/ManyHasMany.php
@@ -12,7 +12,6 @@
 use Nextras\Orm\Entity\IEntity;
 use Traversable;
 use function assert;
-use function spl_object_hash;
 
 
 class ManyHasMany extends HasMany
@@ -92,11 +91,11 @@ protected function updateRelationshipAdd(IEntity $entity): void
 			return;
 		}
 
+		$this->updatingReverseRelationship = true;
 		$otherSide = $entity->getProperty($this->metadataRelationship->property);
 		assert($otherSide instanceof ManyHasMany);
-		$otherSide->collection = null;
-		$otherSide->toAdd[spl_object_hash($this->parent)] = $this->parent;
-		$otherSide->modify();
+		$otherSide->add($this->parent);
+		$this->updatingReverseRelationship = false;
 	}
 
 
@@ -106,12 +105,10 @@ protected function updateRelationshipRemove(IEntity $entity): void
 			return;
 		}
 
+		$this->updatingReverseRelationship = true;
 		$otherSide = $entity->getProperty($this->metadataRelationship->property);
 		assert($otherSide instanceof ManyHasMany);
-		$otherSide->collection = null;
-		$entityHash = spl_object_hash($this->parent);
-		$otherSide->toRemove[$entityHash] = $this->parent;
-		unset($otherSide->tracked[$entityHash]);
-		$otherSide->modify();
+		$otherSide->remove($this->parent);
+		$this->updatingReverseRelationship = false;
 	}
 }
diff --git a/tests/cases/integration/Relationships/relationships.manyHasMany.phpt b/tests/cases/integration/Relationships/relationships.manyHasMany.phpt
index c45452dc..9510d88d 100644
--- a/tests/cases/integration/Relationships/relationships.manyHasMany.phpt
+++ b/tests/cases/integration/Relationships/relationships.manyHasMany.phpt
@@ -292,6 +292,16 @@ class RelationshipManyHasManyTest extends DataTestCase
 		]);
 		Assert::same(1, $books->countStored());
 	}
+
+
+	public function testSymmetricRelationship()
+	{
+		$tag = $this->orm->tags->getById(2);
+		$tag->books->set([1, 2]); // no change
+
+		$book = $this->orm->books->getById(1);
+		Assert::count(0, $book->tags->getEntitiesForPersistence());
+	}
 }