include auto-retries for GHA jobs that have random fails

[juniperlsimonis]

an idea about how to manage the seemingly random breaks of builds that typically work when we re-run manually
https://stackoverflow.com/questions/71574593/how-to-automatically-retry-github-action-jobs-on-failure

@gmyenni

[juniperlsimonis]

this doesn't work so well in our repo out of the box (see #362 for some trials)
will definitely need to step things through