Fix error preventing widget changes

[chiatt]

Types of changes

• Bugfix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking change (fix or feature that would cause existing functionality to not work as expected)

Description of Change

Replaced get_or_create because it was taking widget_id as an argument. This worked well for newly created records, but if a record already existed and the widget was being changed to a different widget, this would create a second cardsxnodesxwidget record for the node.

This change reintroduces #9858, however, that error was due in part to making two immediate calls to the CardView endpoint to update the card and permissions trees here. Throttling the second call by 50ms prevents the issue, however, a better long term solution would be to avoid the second call and find a better way of ensuring the trees stay in sync.

Issues Solved

Closes #10899

Checklist

• I targeted one of these branches:
  • dev/7.6.x (under development): features, bugfixes not covered below
  • dev/7.5.x (main support): regressions, crashing bugs, security issues, major bugs in new features
  • dev/6.2.x (extended support): major security issues, data loss issues
• I added a changelog in arches/releases
• I submitted a PR to arches-docs (if appropriate)
• Unit tests pass locally with my changes
• I added tests that prove my fix is effective or that my feature works
• My test fails on the target branch

[jacobtylerwalls]

+1 tested