wheels: adjust RAPIDS projects to cuda-tile dependency in cuVS

[jameslamb]

Description

NVIDIA/cuvs#2548 introduced a build-time dependency on cuda-tile for cuVS.

Some follow-up work is needed to ensure that dependency's handled in a way that follows RAPIDS' conventions and will work in some of its other build patterns that don't happen in OSS CI (like DLFW builds). Specifically:

• installations of cuda-toolkit should be guarded by use_cuda_wheels in dependencies.yaml (ref: feature request: enforce RAPIDS dependencies.yaml conventions pre-commit-hooks#132)
• the system-installed CTK's tileiras should be used at build time for wheels, no the one from cuda-toolkit[tileiras] wheels
  • this ensures we're building against the CTK we think we're building against

This tracks that work.

Approach

• cugraph
  • approach 1: update dependencies (wheels: fix handling of cuda-tile dependency cugraph#5646)
  • approach 2: just build against pre-built libcuvs wheels (Use libcuvs wheels in wheel and pip-devcontainer builds cugraph#5654)
• cuml (wheels: use system 'tileiras', search site-packages for CMake targets NVIDIA/cuml#8573)
• cuvs
  • enable libcuvs CMake to find dependency installed via wheels (Fix CMake discovery for wheel dependencies NVIDIA/cuvs#2565)
  • use system-installed tileiras in wheel builds (wheels: get 'tileiras' from system install, not 'cuda-toolkit' wheels NVIDIA/cuvs#2564))

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Notes

N/A

[jameslamb]

This is now done.